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herbal_dog) wrote2010-07-02 03:58 pm
herbal_dog) wrote2010-07-02 03:58 pm
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#4: Gender Identity relative to Sexual Orientation?
I have been thinking about gender identity and how it fits in with sexual orientation a lot recently as I have been questioning both- feeling male (nothing new) and feeling an orientation shift.
This may seem a bit complex, I hope it's easy to follow. This is just a personal thing but it may be interesting.
It is not very surprising that most Female-to-Males are attracted to women because most men are attracted to women. I, on the other hand, identify as predominantly gay, insofar as I consider myself male. However, as I find myself becoming more open to a gender transition, I have been feeling more attracted to people of the female gender. I have always been somewhat attracted to women but more in a manner of general physique; I would not think of or seek the attention of a female in a sexual manner, though I admired "cute" or "hot" women as though I had such an interest. I have a bit of a theory on this.
Assume that I was born with a natural inclination towards females. This theory is based mostly around this idea.
Say I was born with the attraction to girls. However, I am female-bodied and male-minded. This has caused me over the 18 years I have been alive to have a very strong disinclination toward female bodies. I hate that I have one and this loathing transfers onto other women, numbing my attraction toward them. Meanwhile, my mind is subconsciously yearning for a male physique, leading me to have a very strong attraction to male bodies. This is while I am UNAWARE of any manner of transgender status.
Upon becoming aware of it, emotional stress against female body is reduced. This leads me to feeling more open to the female gender because I no longer have such a strong negative stigma about them.
Thoughts, opinions, theories?
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This may seem a bit complex, I hope it's easy to follow. This is just a personal thing but it may be interesting.
It is not very surprising that most Female-to-Males are attracted to women because most men are attracted to women. I, on the other hand, identify as predominantly gay, insofar as I consider myself male. However, as I find myself becoming more open to a gender transition, I have been feeling more attracted to people of the female gender. I have always been somewhat attracted to women but more in a manner of general physique; I would not think of or seek the attention of a female in a sexual manner, though I admired "cute" or "hot" women as though I had such an interest. I have a bit of a theory on this.
Assume that I was born with a natural inclination towards females. This theory is based mostly around this idea.
Say I was born with the attraction to girls. However, I am female-bodied and male-minded. This has caused me over the 18 years I have been alive to have a very strong disinclination toward female bodies. I hate that I have one and this loathing transfers onto other women, numbing my attraction toward them. Meanwhile, my mind is subconsciously yearning for a male physique, leading me to have a very strong attraction to male bodies. This is while I am UNAWARE of any manner of transgender status.
Upon becoming aware of it, emotional stress against female body is reduced. This leads me to feeling more open to the female gender because I no longer have such a strong negative stigma about them.
Thoughts, opinions, theories?
----NOTE:
I have made a livejournal to mirror this journal for those who aren't able to create a dreamwidth account at the time. If you follow me here it's unnecessary to follow me there as the same content will be posted on both sites. My username there is also herbal_dog.
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Whereas with females, unless it's something that pushes my buttons, I don't even look twice.
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Then again, my sexuality was always a little weird. I'm attracted to minds, first and foremost, and bodies don't really come into play for me at all. Still, my interest, I guess, waned.
Speaking of sexuality...do you know of/have you encountered anyone else who identifies like that? I've yet to come across a term for it, so I jokingly call myself an "intellexual." Just sort of curious.
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To me, as I start to more embrace the concept of becoming a man, the idea of having a loving wife who will love me and raise our children and cook dinner and support me completely, and who will let me be the best husband, father, and supporter that I can possibly be, is becoming more and more desirable; not exactly females themselves. The idea of any kids I adopt never having a mother makes me sad... I doubt I would adopt at all if I married a man, which is in fact illegal in my state so I couldn't do it anyways.
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Turn ons: long, boring psychology lectures. Oh murr. xD
In all seriousness, though, I'm an oddly wired person, as far as I can see. Which...is fine, I guess. I feel like I am slowly becoming more and more comfortable with it.
But people with same-sex parents are actually well-adjusted according to multiple studies. Just a quick google found this and a ton of other articles. Just saying. :) No need to limit yourself if you want children. <3
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"Pansexuality is a sexual orientation, characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love, or sexual desire towards people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex."
So you see, it's not a "we love all genders" thing, its a "gender doesn't matter" thing. Similar but distinct! I don't know if that's what you're going for though.
I love psychology so I know exactly what you mean. xD You'd love my bookshelf. I collect psychology books I find for affordable prices. I don't have many- six- but I buy them when I have the money!
And, it's not so much about that; I KNOW I would be a good dad. It's one of my biggest goals in life. But same-sex couples are not allowed to adopt in Alabama. (Nor marry, of course.)
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(That was hard to spell.)
I know what you mean, but honestly...I doubt that law will last forever, and - if it does - there are other states that are more tolerant. <3 I feel like same-sex rights are a matter of time. The supreme court has already declared it feels that DOMA is based solely on the prejudice of very outspoken fools...the major problem lies, of course, with how MUCH time it takes for that to be seen as the rational truth it really is.
Ah well. We wait.
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